The naked truth about porn
Potential problems porn perpetuates in a committed relationship
By: Emily Rippe
Issue date: 11/9/07 Section: Pulse
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In case you haven't heard, celebrity porn star Ron Jeremy and pastor/anti-porn activist Chris Gross participated earlier this week in what some of us like to refer to as "The Long, Hard Porn Debate."
It's a debate topic that seems to have an equal amount of supporters on both ends.
Whichever side of the argument you happen to be on, there is no denying pornography is a controversial subject. Its implications on what it says about men and women are questionable.
Some people hate porn because it goes against their religious beliefs. Others hate porn because it degrades women. And as Gross pointed out during the debate, women hate porn because they cannot live up to its expectations. Due to the latter issue, I am not a fan of porn.
Never in my life did I picture myself agreeing with a right-winged, male, Christian fundamentalist. But as it so happens to turn out, I whole-heartedly concur with his statement, "Girls on campus can't compete with porn."
I found it interesting that this man, who I have absolutely nothing in common with, expressed my exact feelings toward "The Long, Hard Porn Debate."
Now, since there were no female representatives arguing in the debate, I am going to expand on Gross' point, from a woman's perspective.
Porn makes me feel sufficiently inadequate. I am a petite girl with petite parts, and I happen to look nothing like a porn star. In fact, I have never seen a girl at this University look like a porn star, unless she actually was one making a speech.
At any rate, I will say that there's no harm in acquiring pornographic items before getting involved in a relationship.
Though I never knew if he stopped looking at his collection while we dated, I told myself he did give it up in order to make me feel better. There was just no way I could compete with that.
I've heard the argument before, men who like to look at porn like to look at it because they know these women are unattainable. It's fun to fantasize.
It's a debate topic that seems to have an equal amount of supporters on both ends.
Whichever side of the argument you happen to be on, there is no denying pornography is a controversial subject. Its implications on what it says about men and women are questionable.
Some people hate porn because it goes against their religious beliefs. Others hate porn because it degrades women. And as Gross pointed out during the debate, women hate porn because they cannot live up to its expectations. Due to the latter issue, I am not a fan of porn.
Never in my life did I picture myself agreeing with a right-winged, male, Christian fundamentalist. But as it so happens to turn out, I whole-heartedly concur with his statement, "Girls on campus can't compete with porn."
I found it interesting that this man, who I have absolutely nothing in common with, expressed my exact feelings toward "The Long, Hard Porn Debate."
Now, since there were no female representatives arguing in the debate, I am going to expand on Gross' point, from a woman's perspective.
Porn makes me feel sufficiently inadequate. I am a petite girl with petite parts, and I happen to look nothing like a porn star. In fact, I have never seen a girl at this University look like a porn star, unless she actually was one making a speech.
At any rate, I will say that there's no harm in acquiring pornographic items before getting involved in a relationship.
Though I never knew if he stopped looking at his collection while we dated, I told myself he did give it up in order to make me feel better. There was just no way I could compete with that.
I've heard the argument before, men who like to look at porn like to look at it because they know these women are unattainable. It's fun to fantasize.
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greater imp
posted 11/10/07 @ 1:39 PM EST
I beg to differ. Personally, I find typical porn-stars unattractive BECAUSE they look so sterotipically porny. The more normal and individual a girl looks, and the more realistic the scene, the more I enjoy it. (Continued…)
ralph
posted 11/10/07 @ 8:10 PM EST
I agree with the comment by greater imp. There is no reason women should feel inadequate or have to compete with porn stars - these are movies and just like mainstream movies everything is enhanced and larger than real life. (Continued…)
Dapper Anarchist
posted 11/12/07 @ 6:40 AM EST
If you're looking for guys who judge you based on the rather bizzare standards of porn, then you have a problem frankly. And how about men feeling they have to live up to the standards of male porn actors?
Ben
posted 11/13/07 @ 8:25 PM EST
The unattainable standards of beauty that women are pressured to aspire to come from mainstream movies, media and advertising. I'm sure most women hardly watch the terrible porn that is alluded to in the article. (Continued…)
Honesty
posted 11/16/07 @ 10:22 AM EST
I feel that porn can most deft. harm a relationship. I agree with what Emily said about "Why would you tease yourself of a dream you know will never come true?" I know if my husband would rather look at porn (as in dream about having sex with other women) than I would feel like I have failed as a wife, because my husband wasn't JUST content with "being" with me!
I know that porn can bring you NO good. (Continued…)
lili1984
posted 11/17/07 @ 1:18 AM EST
Porn is no good if u ask me. When i first met my boyfriend i use to be so upset that he looked at porn for various reasons, why do u have to look at other women naked am i not enough?? And it had me thinking like do i not satisfy you like they do?? i just feel it's not right but im okay with it now even if i do feel uncomfortable with it a man is gonna always do what he wants on his computer. (Continued…)
mighty-gato
posted 12/17/07 @ 10:20 AM EST
I think there's something that needs to be established in this discussion. There are TWO types kinds of sexual interaction. One based on LUST and one based on LOVE. (Continued…)
lord of the flies
posted 12/17/07 @ 6:45 PM EST
If you feel inadequate because of porn stars, then there's a big problem with your self esteem. Men's standards have very little to do with this -- the issue is yours alone. (Continued…)
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